The Self-Discovery Blueprint: Your Next Step Toward Taking Your Power Back

You didn’t just stumble here.

You’ve seen my TikToks. Maybe you’ve caught me live or binged the podcast late at night when your mind wouldn’t slow down.

Most people who land here are at a pivot point in their life.

Something feels off.
Your relationships aren’t as strong as you want them to be.
Work is draining.
You’re doing all the things you’re “supposed” to do—but deep down, a quiet voice says:

“There has to be more than this.”

You start noticing patterns.
Maybe you’ve learned about attachment styles and how they show up in your relationships.
Maybe you’ve realized how often you’ve given your power away to everyone and everything around you.

And something inside of you wakes up.

You’re tired of feeling this way.
You’re ready to take your power back and understand yourself on a deeper level.

Why People Choose The Self-Discovery Blueprint

The Self-Discovery Blueprint is for that exact moment—when so...

Warning: This post discusses sensitive topics, including life and death.

In 2021, I started posting on social media because I saw a gap in content people truly needed—real conversations about the human condition and the relationships that define our lives.

But my journey to The Blueprint Coaching didn’t start with coaching.
It started in law enforcement.

Life in Law Enforcement Changes You

I didn’t become a police officer until my mid-thirties. At 33, I went back to school for my bachelor’s degree in criminal justice as a “non-traditional student.” Later, I earned my Master’s in Threat and Response Management from the University of Chicago in 2020.

Over the years, I served in SWAT, Crime Scene, and Field Training.
From the outside, it looks like action and adrenaline.
But the reality? You’re face-to-face with the rawest side of humanity—and it leaves a mark.

The most life-altering calls were the ones where someone decided they couldn’t stay on this earth anymore.
I’ll never for...

How in the world is a dog going to help you heal your insecure attachment style? 

My entire life I always wanted a dog but there was always a reason to not get one. We can't because your brother has asthma, we don't have the money, I don't want to deal with the chaos, I don't want to deal with the mess, who is going to take the dog out in when the Chicago winter sets in and its -12 degrees. As an adult I gave the reason of, my life is just too busy.

If you look for the reason why not to do something, you will always negotiate and talk yourself out of everything. How many times have you thought about going to the gym but decided not because you negotiated with yourself. I'll go tomorrow, I don't feel like it today, I'm not motivated, or I'm tired. Side note: I've never regretted getting a workout in. You always feel so much better having moved your body for a bit. 

When I was 5 years old the neighbor's dog cornered me in the corner of our fence against the house and I cut my leg on t...

Every day, you wake up—and within seconds, your mind is flooded with thoughts.

For most of us, it sounds like:

• What’s next?

• What do I have to do today?

• Where do I have to be?

Before you even get out of bed, you grab your phone and start scrolling—Instagram, TikTok, Snapchat, Facebook.

Thirty minutes go by.
You haven’t even started your day.
You’re already overstimulated, procrastinating, and overwhelmed.

Living Life on Autopilot

From there, it’s a race:

• Get the kids ready

• Make the lunches

• Fight traffic to work

• Jump straight into the grind

Over time, your days start to blend together.
You’re moving through life on autopilot—like when you get to work and barely remember the drive.

And when this becomes the norm, it erodes your energy and happiness.

What Happens in That First Hour Matters

Let’s go back to that moment you first wake up.

After scrolling through your apps, how do you usually feel?
If you’re honest… it’s mostly negative...

So many of us spend our time in a state of anxiety from outside influences such as school, work, family, relationships, other obligations. It is essential to take a step back and spend some time in nature to allow yourself to hear and feel what is in your vortex or intuition.

At first, the concept of grounding or Earthing sounds totally out there, but as you start to do some digging and gain a better understanding of the process and why it works, it begins to make logical sense reasonably quickly. When you are grounding yourself, it means you are taking time in nature but with your shoes off. Our rubber-soled shoes are a barrier that keeps us from experiencing the benefits of being connected to the Earth's surface. The Earth is constantly emanating energy, and that energy is all around us. The idea is that we can tap into that energy by grounding ourselves in nature and making contact with our feet in the grass, dirt, mud, sand & water. Imagine a time you were at the beach taking in t...

Your emotions impact how you think, act, and feel, which then drives the decisions you make in your everyday life. Often, we find ourselves in a low emotional state due to our environment, the people around us, and our current thought patterns.  Early on in life, your thought patterns were given to you by a parent, caregiver, family member, friend, or from a relationship.

These thought patterns are also learned from our parents and siblings.  If you have an absent, distant, avoidant, or dismissive parent, you might be lonely in your world and developed coping mechanisms from the standpoint that it is better to quiet than to be heard.  At a young age, you are told how you are supposed to be, and that expectation changes you from who you are, which is love, whole, and complete.  The moment you learned that it is better to be seen and not heard, you began to live a life that proved that statement in all aspects of your life from family, friends, work, and education. You most likely becam...