Warning: This post discusses sensitive topics, including life and death.

In 2021, I started posting on social media because I saw a gap in content people truly needed—real conversations about the human condition and the relationships that define our lives.

But my journey to The Blueprint Coaching didn’t start with coaching.
It started in law enforcement.

Life in Law Enforcement Changes You

I didn’t become a police officer until my mid-thirties. At 33, I went back to school for my bachelor’s degree in criminal justice as a “non-traditional student.” Later, I earned my Master’s in Threat and Response Management from the University of Chicago in 2020.

Over the years, I served in SWAT, Crime Scene, and Field Training.
From the outside, it looks like action and adrenaline.
But the reality? You’re face-to-face with the rawest side of humanity—and it leaves a mark.

The most life-altering calls were the ones where someone decided they couldn’t stay on this earth anymore.
I’ll never for...

How in the world is a dog going to help you heal your insecure attachment style? 

My entire life I always wanted a dog but there was always a reason to not get one. We can't because your brother has asthma, we don't have the money, I don't want to deal with the chaos, I don't want to deal with the mess, who is going to take the dog out in when the Chicago winter sets in and its -12 degrees. As an adult I gave the reason of, my life is just too busy.

If you look for the reason why not to do something, you will always negotiate and talk yourself out of everything. How many times have you thought about going to the gym but decided not because you negotiated with yourself. I'll go tomorrow, I don't feel like it today, I'm not motivated, or I'm tired. Side note: I've never regretted getting a workout in. You always feel so much better having moved your body for a bit. 

When I was 5 years old the neighbor's dog cornered me in the corner of our fence against the house and I cut my leg on t...

Your emotions impact how you think, act, and feel, which then drives the decisions you make in your everyday life. Often, we find ourselves in a low emotional state due to our environment, the people around us, and our current thought patterns.  Early on in life, your thought patterns were given to you by a parent, caregiver, family member, friend, or from a relationship.

These thought patterns are also learned from our parents and siblings.  If you have an absent, distant, avoidant, or dismissive parent, you might be lonely in your world and developed coping mechanisms from the standpoint that it is better to quiet than to be heard.  At a young age, you are told how you are supposed to be, and that expectation changes you from who you are, which is love, whole, and complete.  The moment you learned that it is better to be seen and not heard, you began to live a life that proved that statement in all aspects of your life from family, friends, work, and education. You most likely becam...