In a world that doesn’t stop moving, most people don’t take the time to stop and look in the mirror. In this Q&A session from The Blueprint Podcast, I talk about something a lot of people wrestle with after a major life change — especially divorce: “When am I ready to start dating again?” Angie, one of our listeners, wrote in with her story, and it’s a good one. She thought she was ready, jumped back into dating, and quickly realized she wasn’t. What came next was clarity, growth, and a reminder of what real healing actually looks like.

I tell people all the time — the fact that you’re asking “am I ready?” is a good sign. That means you’re in the contemplation phase — you’re thinking, visualizing, and starting to evaluate your standards. That’s growth. Readiness isn’t about time; it’s about honesty. Get clear on who you are and what you value before you go looking for someone else to match it.

Angie said she didn’t know where to start. That’s normal. Most people don’t. I tell my clie...